Your life will be sweet by a child. This is a recommendation that you may have heard. Childbearing can partly affect the lives of couples. But is it a correct advice? In this article, we talk about this.
Childbearingcan partly affect the lives of the couples. But this effect is not deep andpermanent. By child birth their ordinary and tense life changes. Sochildbearing causes that the differences and oppositions be forgotten for awhile. In fact, childbearing does not solve any problem, only problems areforgotten for a while.
If youdecide to have a child to solve problems and get into a sweet life, you shouldalso note that children don’t want their parents to be separated. But a bad marriedlife makes them the children from a broken home.
What kind oflives end with separation, even with childbearing?
Childbearingusually has positive effects on the good married lives. But if the couple donot agree with each other, their life will be finish finally. Usually when theirindividual wishes are not for the family profits, their married life will befinished even if they have child. For example, a father who pays for hisfavorite car but does not meet the basic needs of the family or doesn’t haveany enthusiasm for meeting them.
These livesare usually with fights and wrangles. Of course little quarrels are a naturalproblem and do not cause concern. The existence of these quarrels at thebeginning of every marriage is quite natural. It is natural that twoindividuals with different personal features and different families need timeto adapt to each other.
But when thedifferences between husband and wife make a gap, the issue becomes serious. Infact, the gaps between husbands and wives can be changed to the permanentconflicts, unless they seek treatment. Now you have to ask yourself whetherthese gaps are solved by having a child. Maybe the baby will distract the parents’attention, but sooner or later new pressures begin with worries for new baby.
For asuccessful marriage, never use the old glasses for looking at the present
In the past,the couples’ duty was simply defined. For example, in many societies, thewoman’s duty was just to give birth to a child. In different societies, simpletasks were defined for spouses. But nowadays the men and women grow up withindividual independency. So each of the couples has their individual wishes.
Most of theproblems are made because of these individual wishes. Of course, it does notmean that after marriage one should forget about individual dreams. But inorder to have a good family, men and women must change “me” to“us”. That is, they must be able to ignore many of their individualwishes for the profits of the family. Because the family needs something forgrowth and success. Perhaps we cannot meet both our individual dreams and theneeds of the family. Or maybe sometimes our personal wishes are contrary to theprofits of the family. In such situation, we should be able to prefer the profitsof the family.
Finally, rememberthat childbearing adds a lot of new big responsibilities to life. Therefore, ifthe couples are involved in their individual wishes, or for any other reason, cannotachieve a permanent married life, childbearing can make their life worse.
Having achild in an incorrect situation is a criminal act. Because the baby is not a uselesstoy.