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How to teach decision-making skills to our children?

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We all confront to countless choices on a daily basis, and we need to make small and sometimes big decisions every day. If we have decision-making skills, we can have the right choices. One of the keys to success is the right choices. So, it’s better to learn decision-making skills from childhood to our children.
The children get decision making skills in the family and the family affects the process. This process begins with birth. Children show their likes and dislikes from birth. They are able to choose or refuse the smells, accept or reject the nipple.

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How much do you care about the independence of your children?

Teaching how to choose and making right decisions to children is effective in gaining their independence and self-control. Honestly, how much do you give your children the chance to make a decision? Are you the kind of the parents who are always making decisions and choosing instead of your children? Do you think that everything that comes to your mind (of course, with your experience) is necessarily good for your children? Shouldn’t your child never commit a mistake?
Remember that such treatments make your children an uncertain person with the low decision making power. Increasing the decision making skill is a part of the growth process. If your children’s decision making power is important for you, or if you know the well effect of the right decision making in life, try to help your children in this way by supporting them and respecting to their decisions even if they are not true.

What issues do we let the children make decisions?

Experiencing through the process of making good and bad decisions make our inexperienced children an independent and responsible adult. Let’s let the children make different decisions about different subjects. So your children understand that they should make important decisions in their whole life.

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Letting Children Make Decisions and Mistakes
 


The most important issues that the children face every day according to their age and situation such as graduation problems and the issues of the same age, sports problems, tasks or even decisions about what to wear.
If they don’t have the correct training about the decision making and the experience of the decision making, they do not understand their rights in choosing to solve the problems and choose hasty and carelessly without thinking.
You can increase the children’s decision making power by effective guidance, the right of the useful choosing and logical situation.
Your children will understand the decision making gradually by simple choices like favorite food, favorite dress, the color of the ball and etc.

What are the duties of parents to teach children decision-making skill?

Perhaps, at the beginning of the child’s preparation for decision making, there has to be seen some resistances from the child that is very natural. Particularly for younger children. Your role and your helping at this stage is important.
The child can learn decision making skill faster and happier if he practice to decide in the cases that does not hurt him. For example, if you have two types of cakes and chocolates, the question “Which one do you want to eat first?” Can be a good question. Because with this question, he can think without worrying about losing other chocolates.

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Children’s decision making is strongly influenced by the expectations and values they learn from those around them


Your child should learn to think about all he wants to do. These simple choices just like “whom do I play with in the yard?” make the base of the future important decisions.
Remind him, asking questions and asking for help in making a decision is no problem. But at the same time, it is he who must decide on his own interests and believes. We should teach to our children how to identify their needs and their decision. They should be able to choose the most reasonable among several options.
For example, a child whose friend take his toy, maybe the only way to catch the toy is to attack and hurt him and get his toys back. He does not know at all that he can have any other choices. Helping children in learning and teaching decision-making and recognizing choices help them ensure that they are able to make healthy decisions for themselves.


How to put our child in the decision making situation?

Talk to your child about different situations like cold, warm and rainy weather while leaving home and let him think before deciding. This can help the child understand why one choice is better than the other.
Of course, you can’t completely open the child’s hands for choosing, because he may make decisions that are harmful to his health. For example, he may decide to brush his teeth once a week. Choose a way for decision-making practice that provides a safe and secure range of choices for the child. For example, select and limit his available options carefully. He can choose to brush his teeth before or after the story of the night. This increases your child’s decision-making skill.


Determine the number and types of children’s decisions with logical limitations, for example, let him choose their favorite food from two or three examples of healthy snacks that you have suggested.
Appreciate the good decisions of the child. Let him know why that decision is correct in your opinion. You need to support your child’s abilities and encourage him for his decisions. This behavior can cause increasing self-confidence and sureness in children.
Some sentences like “your choice of eating cheese for breakfast is very good.” Or ”wearing this clothes is exactly the right thing for this air.” can cause self-confidence and they understand that they are also able to make the right decision.


Determine the number and types of children’s decisions with logical limitations, for example, let him choose their favorite food from two or three examples of healthy snacks that you have suggested.
Appreciate the good decisions of the child. Let him know why that decision is correct in your opinion. You need to support your child’s abilities and encourage him for his decisions. This behavior can cause increasing self-confidence and sureness in children.
Some sentences like “your choice of eating cheese for breakfast is very good.” Or ”wearing this clothes is exactly the right thing for this air.” can cause self-confidence and they understand that they are also able to make the right decision.


Decision-making skills in the child are improved by criticism or encouragement?

So you can encourage your child in this process and praise his ability to make a decision. When the child expresses his decision, do not be in the position of a critic, and look at the positive points of his choice. Even if this decision is wrong in your point of view, let him face it’s effects with the safety and health of the child.
Help him look for questions and collect information. Let’s make decisions and make mistakes, but stay with your child to support him in understanding the outcome of his decision. Check the strengths and weaknesses of each choice. You should not limit your child’s decisions. For example, just about food, or toys, or clothes. But you can increase the options as much as you can.
Here, you increase self-confidence and curiosity in children. You also give them the opportunity to experience their outcomes and effects of their decision. This can be an effective educational strategy that teaches decision-making skills and problem-solving to them. In any case, it is important that you have no worries about the safety and health of your child.

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you can encourage your child in this process and praise his ability to make a decision


Always listen carefully to the child’s decision. Think about his choices. Let him feel that his thoughts and decisions are important to you. As such, you integrate the child’s decision-making power into self-confidence, and put a seedling of the ability to make the right decision, in the presence of him, that will become a big and strong tree and the fruits of right, smart and exact decisions will be made.